How to Kick Your Divorce Resentment to the Curb

Getting our lives back after divorce can be hard. There are financial issues, co-parenting, and emotional roller-coasters to ride that can leave us feeling exhausted, wondering if we’ll ever move on and feel happy. Among these stressors, one of the most challenging obstacles to overcome when recovering from divorce is one that can grab hold of even the most patient of people. Resentment and bitterness Resentment is nasty. What makes it so ugly is that it has a tendency to turn you, an otherwise kind and reasonable person, into someone who is so angry at their own life situation that it is nearly impossible to recover. Bitterness and resentment make it hard even for the people who love you to be around you. Resentment makes it hard for you to focus on all the good stuff you have going for you. And bitterness keeps you from moving on. Definitely not what you want or deserve. Remaining resentful means that you are a prisoner to your past, when you should be focusing on your future instead. This feeling is a combination of anger, disappointment, and resentment at being treated unfairly. Did you notice that? The verb treated is in the past tense, and it deals with things that happened that you cannot change and cannot control. The more you continue to look to the past, the harder and harder it becomes to plan for the things you can control. Such as your future. And your happiness. And the rest of your life, which I’m pretty sure you don’t want to live with the weight of...
Source: World of Psychology - Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Tags: Anger Marriage and Divorce Relationships Self-Esteem Self-Help Aggression Anger Management Guilt Personal Growth Remorse Resentment Self Care self-compassion Source Type: blogs