Our Cancer Friends Become Most Important

After years of living in cancerland, I have learned our cancer friends become most important. Before cancer, you meet someone with a cancer diagnosis, and you can get stuck in this awkward pause thing.Am I supposed to ask how they are doing? Or will they think I am prying? Do I mention cancer, or not? Do ask I when they are going to a hospice? Do I ask to bring them a casserole? You aren ' t really sure. And you really do not want to offend them, because, well, they have CANCER! And you cut them some slack if they aren ' t up for socializing.... is cancer catching?Once you have a cancer diagnosis under your belt, you understand and realize that you probably won ' t say anything stupid, like all those other non-cancer people have said to you, like ' are you dying? ' Or, ' do you know how long you have? ' . You realize you can be yourself and crack stupid jokes about medical professionals and how other people don ' t understand your life.Before cancer when you meet someone you might be a bit reticent because you don ' t really know them. But when both of you have cancer, you can start talking right away. You have a mutual topic of conversation. The first topic usually is how treatment is going or how the rest of your family doesn ' t get it.Your cancer friends understand you like no one else. You can talk to them about those ' holy crap ' moments at 3 AM (doesn ' t everyone wake up and think the cancer cooties have returned?) You can call them when you think something ' bad ' i...
Source: Caroline's Breast Cancer Blog - Category: Cancer & Oncology Tags: cancer bonds friends idiots Source Type: blogs