Creating Meaning From Madness

It seems timely, somehow, that I update and reprint an article that I wrote in the aftermath of 9/11, not so much because it was recently the 15th anniversary of the tragedy, but because this kind of display of heartlessness seems to be with us like an undertow. Seaside Park, New Jersey and Chelsea, New York City are only the most recent occurrences. The following is my way of putting this state of affairs in a kind of perspective. Infertility in a Time of Tragedy - (original title, text updated September, 2016) I've been an infertility counselor for 38 years, a mother for 47 and a grandmother for 13. My heart has been in all three of these aspects of myself. The joy of being a mother, grandmother and guide for those who seek parenthood are absolutely integral to my being and are noisily alive within me. I feel privileged to have experienced these things. When a patient conceives, gives birth or adopts, my off-key self feels as if I could sing. It comes just as easily, naturally and authentically for me to share in the joy of a patient's hard-won victories as it had been to experience my own good fortune. Humanity has been devastated by the few, on whom the miracle of conception and birth - the wonder of experiencing nature at its most profound - has been obliterated, or they could never have committed such heinous crimes. Words do little justice in explaining the horror of what was felt then and continues to be felt. It would be a shame to fail to remember the past or f...
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When Michelle Obama’s memoir, Becoming, was released in October 2018, several reviewers noted that her book reveals that the Obamas struggled with infertility. When I was lucky enough to receive a copy as a gift, I learned that Michelle and Barack didn’t simply have a ‘touch of infertility’: they went through IVF in order to have both Malia and Sasha. Why, some reviewers seemed to wonder, was the public learning this significant piece of the Obamas history now? And, to be bipartisan about it, we learned in Laura Bush’s 2010 memoir, Spoken From the Heart, that she and her husband had endured a ...
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One evening in the winter of 2016, my husband mentioned that he was sending away for one of those commercial DNA-testing kits. He asked if I wanted him to order me one as well. I could easily have said no. I wasn’t curious about my ancestry. I knew where I came from–Eastern European Ashkenazi Jews on both my parents’ sides. Instead, I said yes. Why not? It seemed like a game–like those personality tests people often take online. The results, when I received them a few months later, changed everything I had ever understood about myself. I was only half Eastern European Ashkenazi, as it turned out. A ...
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When Noah Shulman was born a few days after Christmas 2016, his parents Kristelle and Evan had no reason to worry about him. The pregnancy went smoothly, and so did the birth. But within a few days of taking his first breath, Noah began to struggle. He wasn’t feeding, so he started losing weight. He was also lethargic. Several pediatricians reassured the Shulmans that they were probably just overly sensitive to Noah’s symptoms because Kristelle is a nurse and Evan is a physician assistant–a case of first-time-parent-white-coat syndrome. “They kind of dismissed us as neurotic parents,” says Eva...
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CHELMSFORD (CBS) – Infertility can be a painful experience for couples trying to start a family. It’s a roller coaster ride of emotion that Shawn and Shannon McNamee know well. For more than a year, Shannon injected herself hundreds of times. They tried several rounds of in vitro fertilization (IVF). Nothing worked. “You would get really hopeful and optimistic, then it would crash. The results came back negative every time,” Shawn told WBZ-TV. The McNamees decided to adopt and now their living room is filled with toys and their hearts with love. Their son Logan is happy and curious and in no way int...
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I am still not able to cope up with negative pregnancy test. I just wished that the test still comes positive. My good looking embryos do not like to settle in my good looking endometrium lining. I wish that I could know what these beautiful embryos wants more from me? Why all these medicines,efforts, patience, care, precautions and prayers for having a baby is not paying off. What else can we do to fulfill our dream to have a baby ?Crying is also not helping. After getting result, I spent entire day in reading positive ivf stories on internet I know that in this journey nobody get success immediately, every couple have th...
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For couples dealing with infertility, the cost of fertility treatment can be significant. While numerous variables need to be considered when estimating the cost of treatments like in vitro fertilization (IVF), estimates put the price on the order of...
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Infertility treatment is always elective, which is why I try to offer as many treatment options as possible to patients, so they can pick and choose which the right one is for themselves .For example, patients with unexplained infertility can choose to do either IUI or IVF. Now, when I offer the patient a choice, they get very confused , because they don't know what they should do . They want a doctor who will make the decision for them.While I'm happy to offer guidance, I don't want to be paternalistic , and I remind them that I'm not a mind reader – I don’t know what your personal preferences are.The tru...
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Many infertile patients get major heartburn when they realize that they aren't able to afford test tube baby treatments because they are so expensive. They can't understand why IVF doctors charge so much, and lots of patients end up thinking of IVF clinics as being greedy.Patients need to understand that part of test tube baby treatment is clinical – and this is what the patient sees. This includes: consultations, blood tests, ultrasound scans, egg collection, and embryo transfer.However, the heart of the IVF treatment is the IVF laboratory, and the patient doesn ’t get to see what goes on behind the scenes in ...
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CONCLUSION: Some childhood and pre-pregnancy cardiovascular risk factors are associated with adult subfertility. PMID: 29899387 [PubMed - as supplied by publisher]
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Recurrent pregnancy loss ( repeated miscarriages or habitual abortions) is one of the most frustrating problems in medicine. It is hard for patients , because getting pregnant , and then losing the baby again and again is traumatic. It's bad for doctors, because patients have so many questions , and we don't have any answers ! The truth is that our tests are not very good, and there is little we can do to make n accurate a diagnosis. This is why, in about 80% of patients with recurrent pregnancy loss , inspite of extensive testing, we will not be able to find an underlying cause.Based on experience over many years, the one...
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