Is It Selfish to Mourn for Ourselves When a Loved One Dies?

There is no such thing as the right way to feel grief or loss. My cat Rumi s a 16 year old purebred white Persian that I rescued from an abusive home nine years ago. Over the years I watched him grow into his strange, curious, social self, complete with a silent meow meant, I think, to get my attention. It always works. On The Bright Side: 7 Surprising Benefits Of Sadness Because he’s a purebred cat, he’s got a mother lode of health issues and always has. His stomach is sensitive, so he needs prescription food. He’s going blind, he has had all but three teeth removed. He can’t always breathe well (smushed face) and he’s got polycystic kidney and liver disease, which means essentially that his body is slowly shutting down. He’s pretty good at his litter box for pee, though he’ll shit whenever he likes at this point. I jokingly say he’s subletting my bathroom, because that’s where he needs to sleep now. But I miss the days when he slept next to my face in my bed. He can’t do that anymore because (of course) the one place outside the litter box he decided peeing was a cool option was my bed. No bueno. I am getting ready to put him to sleep, and even writing about that loss that is yet to come makes a lump form in the base of my throat. This grief makes me feel like a monster, because it isn’t the first loss I’ve experienced. But it’s a scientific fact, we all process grief differently and we don’t always do with it tears. I’ve lost...
Source: World of Psychology - Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Tags: Grief and Loss Publishers YourTango death mourn Rebecca Jane Stokes relief Sadness selfish Source Type: blogs