'Why Do Some People Learn And Grow After Trauma And Others Don't?'

Reader Philosophical Questioner writes, Why do some people have maturity and perspective, while other people, with similar experiences, lack these qualities? I can think of two of my siblings, and my father and uncle. Both pairs of people have experienced regular life trauma: challenging relationships, the deaths of partners, etc. In both pairs of people, one person has gained a lot of insight about life, and regularly provides solid insight, wisdom, and advice about life. The other person has a myopic view of life, and doesn't seem to learn much from their experiences. I think this ability to be objective about your life -- this maturity -- can be seen at an early age -- even starting in the 20's. Why do some people have this ability to gain perspective, while other people always seem to be victims of their lives? Dear PQ, Many people choose to be judgmental of others, as you are about your uncle and sibling, because they don't understand something really important: people are DIFFERENT.  Everyone isn't the same lump of clay that has the capacity to be molded in the same way given the same experiences.  The range of innate, genetic, temperamental, physical, and emotional differences between any two individuals, even those who are related, is vast.  Additionally, even when siblings are raised in the same home by the same parents, they don't have the SAME upbringing (like, the oldest is treated differently than the baby, which anyone can attest to who has a sibling)....
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