Sure You've Never Had a Threesome? Think Again.

People say the worst things come in threes, and relationships are no exceptions. If you're skeptical, think of the last time you grabbed a quick happy hour with a friend. How long did it take you before the conversation turned to that snarky coworker you don't like? Or the communication problems you have with your partner? Or perhaps the sobering reality that you still haven't forgiven Ben Affleck? Though we don't like to admit it, two people talking about another is a kind of verbal threesome. In the therapy world, we don't exactly call it a threesome. This habit to gossip or complaining to a willing ear is known as an emotional triangle. You see, by nature, twosomes are unstable. Because at some point, conflict is inevitable. So what do we do when things get rough? We bond via our shared dislike of a friend's racist Facebook posts, or we pull in a listening ear when we didn't bag that promotion at work. Pretty harmless, right? The trouble is that if we engage in emotional threesomes too often, we forget how to have difficult conversations. We forget how to say what we think and feel to the person who needs to hear it the most. We abandon the power of the twosome, and we get lost in a maze of triangles. If you're not convinced, let's take a look at a couple common threesomes you see every day. The Office Office drama is ripe for triangles. If you don't believe me, what do you do the second your boss institutes a bonkers plan that doubles your workload, or when a hatefu...
Source: Healthy Living - The Huffington Post - Category: Consumer Health News Source Type: news