Moving on After a Love Relationship With a Narcissist

THE ARMOR OF HEALING If you have been in a love relationship with a narcissist, you will likely find that you will need a period of healing and trauma recovery. The following is an excerpt from my most recent book, Will I Ever Be Free of You? How to Navigate a High-Conflict Divorce from a Narcissist and Heal Your Family. Frank Sinatra is commonly credited with saying, "The best revenge is massive success."1 I agree with that sentiment. When you have been harmed by a relationship with a narcissist, the best revenge is to reclaim your sense of self and life. It is time to take the healing inside. How deep is your hurt? It depends on a lot of things that are unique to you, such as your family background, how strong you were when you entered the relationship, how long the relationship was, and how bad it was. You have likely suffered damaged self-esteem and a lack of belief in yourself. Many adults I have treated who have had intimate connections with narcissists have been diagnosed with post-traumatic stress disorder caused by extreme verbal, emotional, and psychological abuse. Some have experienced sexual and physical abuse as well. Some people in your life will not understand the pain or damage that you have suffered. The narcissist presents well to the outside world. If someone doesn't understand your reality, don't look to him or her for sympathy or advice. Listen instead to your gut. Honor your feelings. Work a recovery program so that you are able to move forward in a...
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