Why Are So Many High Achieving Girls Unhappy?

Happiness is the ultimate currency -- more than wealth, achievements or material possessions -- and we should raise our children, structure our schools and live our lives in a way that maximizes it. That's the message of the book I just finished, Happier by Tal Ben-Shahar, as part of research for my new book on parenting girls ages 16-24. I can't say I ever gave much thought to happiness. I come from a family where happiness was seen as an "extra," a kind of frill to life -- nice to have, but certainly not necessary and by no means paramount. Work was king. Suffering meant you were working hard. It made you worthy. It's no coincidence that the most popular class at Harvard was about something many hard-driving students likely lived without: happiness. Ben-Shahar taught it. All around him at Harvard and in the mirror, he saw the archetype of the "rat racer," the achievement-driven soul who delayed his own happiness in order to reach some future destination (graduation, a good job, a signing bonus, etc.). I am a recovering rat racer. That's why I'm writing this next book. All around me, I see girls forced to become rat racers in the College Application Industrial Complex, the subculture where students must craft themselves into the perfect specimens for college admission and often lose their authenticity, love of learning and sense of self in the process. According to Ben-Shahar, the rat racer thinks achieving goals makes her happy, and so justifies ...
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ConclusionNo medical cause was found to explain the disability. Findings support that the condition is a form of idiopathic environmental intolerance and belongs to functional somatic syndromes. Instead of endless avoidance, rehabilitation approaches of functional somatic syndromes are applicable.
Source: Safety and Health at Work - Category: Occupational Health Source Type: research
Authors: Geoffroy PA, Micoulaud Franchi JA, Lopez R, Schroder CM, membres du consensus Mélatonine SFRMS Abstract Melatonin is a hormone secreted by the pineal gland at night. This hormone has many physiological functions, the main one being to synchronise individuals' biological rhythms. Exogenous melatonin has the same chronobiotic action, even at small doses (0.125mg). In addition, a sleep-inducing (soporific) action appears to occur in a dose-effect relationship, i.e. as the dose increases. In psychiatric disorders, these two effects could have interesting applications in clinical practice. The French ins...
Source: L Encephale - Category: Psychiatry Tags: Encephale Source Type: research
The UK market for cannabidiol, a compound found in cannabis, will soon be worth £1bn. But consumers are being connedRoll up, roll up, ladies and gentleman, and gather around. Do you, your loved one – or family pet – suffer from any of the following conditions? Cancer, epilepsy, diabetes, arthritis, anxiety, menstrual cramps, insomnia, dry skin, psychosis, Alzheimer’s, dementia, anger, depression, ADHD, Crohn’s and IBS, PTSD, opiate addiction, Parkinson’s, pain of any kind, migraine, or canine uptightness? Then it’s your lucky day.Related:CBD: a marijuana miracle or just another hea...
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ConclusionsBBTI was tolerated well within this symptom-limited patient population and was associated with reduced symptoms of insomnia and distress.
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In conclusion, this review highlights the importance for clinicians to investigate for the presence of chronic nightmares along with other sleep difficulties (most commonly, insomnia and sleep apnea), to consider the potential influence of nightmares on the course of the primary mental disorder, and to be prepared to grant access to treatments targeting nightmares. (PsycINFO Database Record (c) 2019 APA, all rights reserved)
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You're reading 5 Surprising Things Stress Can Do to Your Body, originally posted on Pick the Brain | Motivation and Self Improvement. If you're enjoying this, please visit our site for more inspirational articles. You just got off a terrible meeting, your boss gave you an impossible deadline for the next project, your team is pushing you to make extra hours, and you still need to pick up the kids at school. Your body is in a “fight or flight response.” Your stress levels are high, you feel your breath get quicker and even feel your heart beating faster than usual. Although this is all a natural response from y...
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Conclusion.Symptom expression is amplified in patients with delirium, whereas patients without delirium may be more responsive to palliative treatments with a significant decrease in intensity of ESAS items.Implications for Practice.Symptom expression is amplified in patients with cancer who have delirium, whereas patients without delirium may be more responsive to palliative treatments with a significant decrease in symptom intensity.
Source: The Oncologist - Category: Cancer & Oncology Authors: Tags: Symptom Management and Supportive Care Source Type: research
Depression and Addiction Throughout life, everyone has bad days and low moments. We all get into a “funk” or have times when we feel the blues. While this is a normal part of life and reaction to stress or traumatic events, depression is an entirely different thing. According to the American Psychiatry Associaton, Depression is a common and serious medical illness that negatively affects how you feel, the way you think and how you act. The condition causes feelings of sadness and/or a loss of interest in activities once enjoyed. It can lead to a variety of emotional and physical problems and can decrease a pers...
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ConclusionNo medical cause was found to explain the disability. Findings support that the condition is a form of IEI and belongs to functional somatic syndromes (FSS). Instead of endless avoidance, rehabilitation approaches of FSS are applicable.
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Authors: Jordan H, Ortiz N Abstract Myasthenia gravis is a neuroimmunological disorder leading to skeletal muscle weakness. Common symptoms of the disease, such as anxiety, depression, and insomnia, can cause significant distress in patients. Unfortunately, selecting an appropriate medication for treatment of psychiatric comorbidities can prove to be challenging for providers given the unique pharmacologic constraints that myasthenia gravis presents. The authors present the following clinical vignette and accompanying discussion in an attempt to highlight the special considerations that must be taken into account w...
Source: Journal of Neuropsychiatry and Clinical Neurosciences - Category: Psychiatry Tags: J Neuropsychiatry Clin Neurosci Source Type: research
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